Grounding is being able to stay with your experience, to be able to "hold your ground" without tensing up and contracting, or restricting and holding your breath, or getting overly intense in your attitude and your focus. 

Staying grounded is having the appropriate amount of tension and relaxation you need to do whatever you are doing - driving, yoga, surfing, sex, on the computer, eating or dealing with a difficult situation. 

Grounding has to do with roots, connection to the depths within you. It implies being able to anchor yourself in your present experience. 

Grounding as its name suggests, relates to your connection with the ground, gravity and, in a broader sense, your whole contact with reality. 

GROUNDING is essential if you are to be fully in touch with your body, to trust and enjoy your feelings, and to be able to give and receive pleasure freely.

Being grounded suggests stability, security, and independence, having a solid foundation - living in the present. It means having a mature sense of responsibility for yourself, as we say “standing on your own two feet,” and “knowing where you stand”.

Much of your sense of grounding comes from the way you experience your body, your “somatic reality“. Your feet, legs, pelvis and belly are your roots, your base, they are your less conscious, more instinctual functions of movement, digestion, sex, and birth. 

Many of us have been distanced from our biological roots, and our own deep rhythms, this has resulted in a lack of acceptance and support for our basic needs. This results in a sense of disconnection, living in the world of thoughts and ideas, feeling rootless, spaced out & ungrounded. 

Any exercises or bodywork that works with your lower body will increase your sense of groundedness. Learning to breathe into your belly is vital to grounding, for if your breathing is shallow, contact with reality and with your feelings will be limited.

People who are not grounded risk being overwhelmed by strong feelings, sexual and otherwise. To prevent this from happening, ungrounded individuals must reduce all feelings, for fear of become overwhelmed, afraid & unable to cope. 

A grounded person can support a strong excitation, which will be experienced as aliveness and pleasure. A person who is well grounded knows who they are and where they stand. This is the basis of our inner sense of security and well-being.

As you practice grounding and become more conscious of your body’s needs, your sense of confidence in who you are and what’s important to you – your inner ground – becomes more and more solid.

This deepening self-knowledge and acceptance potentially brings more wisdom to the choices you make for yourself in your life. What you choose to eat, the way you express yourself, the job you choose, the way you move and exercise, the relationships you create, where you live, your posture, the ways you nurture and express your creativity, the way you organise your time, become the ground of your health, happiness and well-being.